To Counsel or Not To Counsel?

Say I know how to make fruit salad. And I can make he best fruit salad in the world. If you come to me because you have a problem making fruit salads what am I going to do is take you to my kitchen. Am I going to take you to my kitchen – sit you down and  ask you to tell me all the things you do to ruin your fruit salad?

First off – I don;t really want to hear your bad habits lest I start getting bad ideas, I really just want to show you the right way to make a fruit salad. This is not only easier and less time consuming, I know for a fact that

Of course the counselling industry is built on listening rather than provising solutoions. I know because i spent several months at a counsellors who in the end offered NO advice whatsoever! Not even from the bible. Did idt occor to anyone the reason for this? $$$$. How much is a counsellor going to make if they just read out the Bible the answer to your problems – ie the right way to do something when they can string it out for weeks knowing you would like nothing ore than to talk about ypur prblems endlessly without having to actually do anything about it!

The same happened when I had driving tests – I was offered to be booked for 10 more when I had already enough to take my test – $$$$ follow the money!

You want to stop using a microwave?… I guarantee you won;t stop using it until you sell it! But if you do you are unlikey to sneak down to the garage to use their microwave!

Christian Eye Gazing Events

What is an ‘eye-gazing’ event? I would think this has to be a variation on speed dating events where people get together in a large group – guys and girls and have 3-5 minutes sitting and chatting opposite each person of the opposite gender in the group!

However I will come back and update this page when I know more about exactly what an eye gazing event is really all about!

What Fuse Should I Use – 3A, 5A or 13A Fuses?

UK Plug Fuses Guide

NOTE: this is for guidelines only – please check your particular electrical appliance!

Most common UK plugs are fitted with a 3A or 13A fuses.
For electrical devices and appliances up to 700w you should use a 3A fuse. For appliances that are over 700w you need to use a 13A fuse. For example:

3A Fuse – Table lamp, standard lamp, television, video, computer, mixer, blender, fridge, freezer, power drill, jig saw, soldering iron

13A Fuse – higher power machines i.e washing machines, toasters, dishwashers, microwaves, kettles or irons.

Manufacturers have now standardised plug fuse ratings to be either 3A or 13A. However,

5 Amp fuses are still used in some older equipment and are available to buy.

Understanding Email Authentication

Here are several key articles that explain the differences between the different ways to authenticate email.

The Domain Name System is essentially the phonebook for the Internet. It manages the relationships between IP addresses (the phone numbers), and domains (individuals and corporations).

SMTP (Simple Mail Transfer Protocol) was originally designed for email to be sent/recieved in coorporate and educational agencies and spam was not considered a problem. Ensuring a valid identity on an email has become a vital step in stopping spam (as email can be filtered based on such an identity), forgery, fraud, and even more serious crimes. The Simple Mail Transfer Protocol (SMTP) is continuously evolving, but when it was designed, in the early 1980s, it was the purview of academia and government agencies, and as such, there was no cause to consider security. It provided for no formal verification of sender. Various email authentication methods have since developed:

Authentication methods

  • 3.1 SPF (SPF checks whether the sender’s IP address is authorized by one of the identified ADMDs)
  • Sender ID or SIDF(framework) (Microsofts licenced/patented alternative to SPF – Sender ID tries to inprove on SPF yet they address different probles. Sender-ID requires SPF in order to be implemented. typical Microsoft! – see below)
  • 3.2 DKIM (DKIM checks the message content, deploying digital signatures. Rather than using digital certificates, the keys for signature-verification are distributed via the DNS. That way, a message gets associated to a domain name).
  • 3.3 ADSP
  • 3.4 DMARC
  • 3.5 VBR
  • 3.6 iprev
  • “PRA” (Purported Responsible Address) gives incorrect results (false positives) on all the same things that SPF does, but also fails on mailing lists, moderated newsgroups, most MSAs enforcing submission rights (RFC 2476) without adding a corresponding “Sender:” header, and other MTAs adding incorrect “Sender:” headers.
  • DMARC (Domain-based Message Authentication)
    “Despite being one of the world’s largest email senders, we only require a handful of individuals to maintain all of Facebook’s email security efforts thanks to DMARC,” said Michael Adkins, Messaging Engineer, Facebook. “DMARC’s powerful controls protect over 85% of our users from fraudulent email that claims to be from Facebook, and that’s after just one year. Add in the visibility and insight provided by DMARC’s reporting features and a very small team can have a huge impact on phishing.”

DNS Record Types



SPF vs Sender ID

DKIM (domian keys identified mail)

SPF (sender policy framework)

Does Hell Last Forever?

One thing we do know is that The Devil does not have a red suit and a forked tail – a description that pleases him no end causing millions of people to doubt his existence! A smart handsome business man might be a might be a far better description!

Before we answer this question (if it can be answered) we must first consider something that happens during our life here on earth that we all witness to varying degrees every day; that is, that God already allows untold suffering (albeit temporary though for some it is extremely prolonged) to people that are both innocent and guilty of crimes and injustices towards others, to children and old people, evildoers and saints alike.

So at the outset – the idea that a good god would not allow eternal suffering falls down straight away because by this argument, if he was truly good, then he would not allow any suffering at all – at least not the amount and sort we witness every day and may well one day visit us wether we are deserving or not 9the rain falls on both the just and unjust). After all we must face the fact that we regularly hear reports of people burning to death, falling under buses or dying in the most painful ways imaginable.

And let’s not forget that throughout much of history people were tortured and and burned as heretics for what today we would consider minor offences – reading the Bible is one example. Indeed one of the problems is that today in the cozy western hemisphere we are very much shielded from the kind of suffering that God clearly allows to go on all around the globe daily.

So we cannot come at the argument from a desire that virtually infinite suffering already occurs under God’s watch of both the innocent and guilty. This would indicate that there is far more to suffering that just punishment of

Now consider if God allows this kind of terrible torment to the righteous, people who  do not in most people’s eyes deserve such siffering, is it not possible that at the very least an evil person will at the very least suffer as much as the righteous have? And yet if this is the case – would this be justice? Perhaps it would; and eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth most likely comes from this concept.

So it would appear that understadably this debate comes about like may others in the Bible that we just don’t want to be true because quite frankly it scars us to death and is frankly too horrible to contemplate. But none of this proves or disproves wether hell lasts forever – it merely gets some things out in the open we don’t like to think about. So now we can look at what the Bible says and see if a) we can makes sense of what it says in different places regarding hell b) whatever it says is just.

One thing the world does is equate the numbers of people that suffer with the amount of suffering itself, when it is obvious that a single person can only suffer so much as stated in the Bible – and that suffering is not ‘multiplied’ simply by numbers of people involved. Each life is of the same value and can potentially and broadly only suffer the same amount. as we so often want to call one despot worse than another because he killed 10,000 people while his brother killed 100,000 – they are both as bad as each other since every life is of the same infinite value and one life taken in murder is by reason alone as bad as 10,000, and the Bible makes it clear that God’s eyes see suffering in this way.

UK Christian Dating Sites for Singles

Christian Dating websites for UK Single Christians

There are several Christian dating sites that serve the UK specifically (England, Scotland, Ireland and Wales) with a number of others that accept UK and Irsih Christians but that have fewer singles profiles. For the most popular british sites try Fusion101 FREE UK Christian Singles & personals & chat service (, and Christian Connection (christian connection). Click to date Christian singles is also british based and has a good chat service – for single girls and guys online.

UK Christian Singles Personals & Dating sites just for UK Christians at!

100% FREE Christian Dating Service
100% FREE UK Christian dating site owned and run by genuine Christians!

Most of these online personal ad services have members from all Britain’s major cities – including Manchester, Edinburgh, London, Norwich, Berkshire, Buckinghamshire, Buckingham, Cambridgeshire, Cambridge, Cheshire, Cornwall Cumberland, Derbyshire, Devon, Dorset, Durham, Essex, Gloucestershire, Leicestershire, Lincolnshire, Hampshire, Hertfordshire, Kent, Lancashire, Middlesex Norfolk, Northamptonshire Scotland, Norwich, Northumberland, Nottingham, Oxford, Staffordshire Suffolk, Sussex, Surrey.

See below the site snapshot for more information but both services offer singles of all ages, denominations and backgrounds – dating, pen-pals, personals, marriage and chat services for and even have Christian singles as far away as Jersey and Guernsey.

The following web sites are not just UK specific but cater for Christians all over the planet! Try them -most offer a free trial of some sort and offer good value for money inexpensive networking services.

Christian mates – a dot com dedicated to giving you help finding your Christian partner.

Christian dating tech network – modern dating service that is powered by a secular dating engine but this part is tailored to the Christian market specifically.

More Resources and web sites for Christians in the UK
websites specifically for UK Christians

The best UK single Christian websites reviewed at christian 2004