Divorce & Remarriage: Is Marriage after Divorce Adultery?

“Hi, my question is regarding re-marriage – is divorce and remarriage adultery? I am engaged to a man that has been married once before, and now divorced.  During the marriage, both parties did things that could be considered unfaithful to one another.  Although neither person knew what the other had done. The marriage did not necessarily end due to the unfaithful acts. My questions are: 1) since my fiance committed an act of unfaithfulness towards his former wife, is he then always considered an adulterer, even if he has repented of his sin?  2) Is he allowed to be remarried and have it be ok in the eyes of God?  3) IF I marry him, will I then be committing sin and be considered an adulterer?  Thank you so much.”
Hi there,
On the question of is divorce and remarriage adultery? From my reading the Bible / Jesus is quite unambiguous as far as I can see about what is what – but he is also clear that forgiveness knows no bounds if it is sought earnestly.
The problem with this issue and others like it is that people tend to seek council of men who will say what they want to hear / fits with their circumstances/lifestyle – rather than what God says – and we all do it – Ive done it. Jesus didn’t say to the woman at the well – go back and marry all your ex-husbands – he said go and sin no more – ie move forward. We are all adulterers in terms of being unfaithful to God so I would seek God’s/Jesus council on this in the Bible so the sin of adultery within marriage is no better or worse than our sins against God generally. Question is – having done it what are we going to do about it?
Personally I would be cautious to marry a person whom I knew in advance had done this – not from a forgiveness point of view but from a behavioural point of view. Having said that these situations can be far from cut and dry and sometimes people are driven to it and regret it  – others just see it as an option if things aren’t going well. But that’s would be your call .
Apologies – I was rushing didn’t really answer the question directly – as I think you need to really ask God yourself with an open heart – to any answer He may give – not necessarily the one we want to hear – which is not easy.

But I do feel we need to call a spade a spade – just as Jesus did – in other words God doesn’t want anyone to divorce – ever – no matter what the circumstances – that seems crystal clear and Jesus even goes as far as to say Moses giving a divorce certificate was not Gods way but because of hardened hearts it was the only option – and I think nothing has changed today, people have not become more ‘godly’.

But Jesus having spelled out in black and white terms what divorce amounts to in God’s eyes – always goes on to offer a way forward – sin of adultery within marriage is no worse than our sins against God generally. Question is – having done it what are we going to do about it – are we not going to call it out for what it is going to do it again?

So my summary of this issue (my humble opinion – please read the Bible yourself);

If it has happened and there is no going back – and we are to enter into another marriage.. we definitely can’t go into it the same way as we did before – the way the liberal churches teach it (since 70% their tithing congregation are likely divorced and most would leave) that divorce is an option if things don’t turn out the way we want.

It’s not what we can get out of it – it’s what we can give – how we can become the right person – not finding the right person for us. No one is ‘compatible’ – we are all self-serving – it’s about becoming compatible.

So my opinion would be yes – according to Jesus one is an adulterer – but from the Bible it’s clear God is always willing to wipe the slate clean. And never forget as I mentioned before – we are ALL adulterers in God’s eyes.

This is a harsh teaching from Jesus but I think the whole point of marriage is commitment – and there is no real commitment if we feel there is always an option to bail out.

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How to Stop Photos from Opening on When Plugging In iPhone

It can be super annoying that every time you plug an iPhone into an iMac to charge it, the iPhotos or photos application opens up – and takes a month of Sundays to do so before I can get on with my work when all I want to do is charge my phone! So… what can we do to stop this? How do you stop photos from opening on when plugging In iPhone? I wasn’t sure myself until I did a bit of research – and here’s what I found.

The method needed to stop the Photos application from opening when you plug your iPhone into your iMac or MacBook for charging only is to use the following simple steps;

  1. Plug in your mobile phone (iPhone) into your iMac or MacBook Pro and wait for the Photos application program to automatically open up. If it does not – open up Photos from your program menu (scroll to the bottom or side of the screen and hover to see your app menu or open your Mac icon on desktop – goto Applications and open Photos program from there).
  2. Click just under where it says ‘Import’ at the top left of the window where your iPhone should appear (as it’s plugged in).
  3. Last – simply uncheck the check box top most left (above where your iPhone appears) next to where it says; ‘Open Photos’. That’s it – a lifetime of unnecessary annoyance has come to an end! OK maybe I exaggerated that a bit:)

For a graphic view of what i just described above – see the screenshot  took below and note a) your iPhone appears when you plug it into your Apple iMac/Mac Book and b) where the little elusive check box is that you need to un-check. Happy charging!

Here’s how to stop that pesky program application Photos from opening every single time you plugin your mobile iPhone to charge! See the blue checkbox top left… uncheck that and you are good to go!

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Soundflower: How To Hear & Monitor Audio Sound Playback In Logic Pro/Pro X on Your PC/Mac Speakers While Recording

Q: How to hear and monitor audio sound playback In Logic Pro and Pro X on Your PC or iMac speakers while recording?

Having trouble hearing the audio in your iMac or PC built in speakers when you are using Soundflower software to record directly into Logic Pro or Logic Pro X using YouTube or some other sound source on your PC or Mac? Fret no more!

I found all kinds of forums and web pages that gave me useless or no answers to how to hear playback audio but none actually helped! I could get the recoding meters bobbing up and down nicely ready to record, but alas no sound coming through the mac speaker (if you haven’t even got that far – see lower dow this page to see how to basically setup Soundflower on MAC to route and send sound from YouTube or a website to Logic to record directly into Logic Pro).

In fact, I messed around for days trying to work out why I can’t hear the sound playback when I have Soundflower routed to Logic Pro. Eventually I found the and solution – a single check box in the Logic Audio preferences window! Here is your answer….

!!!To hear playback – make sure you have ‘SOFTWARE MONITORING’ checked ON in Logic Pro/Pro X’s Audio Preferences window before you start to record!!! See screenshot below;

Wait a minute – I can’t even get the Soundflower set up to record – let alone hear the playback!!! What about the other settings?!

OK I’ll talk you through all the settings – there are very few. The first thing I could not get my head round was that you have to first set set the OUTPUT – yes the OUTPUT in your System Preferences > Sound to Sounflower(2ch). After much head scratching as to why (I thought this would stop sound coming out the Mac’s speakers) I concluded this must be because Soundflower is acting as a middleman between your system’s sound source eg; CD or Youtube video – and Logic. So the sound route goes; Mac source (eg Youtube) > Soundflower > Sounflower Output > Logic Input > Logic Output (system speakers). To monitor the recorded sound and get it to come out of the speakers set your Logic Audio preferences as per the screenshot above (NOTE ‘Software Monitoring’ MUST BE ON!)

Back to setting up your mac settings to route the Youtube or other source correctly to Logic. Since writing the above – I have decided to skip the nonsense and just give you screenshots wth the settings you need. If all that confused you – just simply check the following windows and settings on your Mac or PC are setup as follows – happy recording with Soundflower!

These are the ONLY Settings that MUST be changed on your MAC/PC to record external sound (youtube etc) into Logic Pro X from Soundflower…

NOTE: you do NOT need to change the INPUT settings above – only the OUTPUT settings to Soundflower (2ch)!

How to increase or decrease sound source input / output level from Soundflower to Logic to get a hotter louder recording signal level…

Simply use the volume/output setting on you Mac sound preferences (screenshot above); goto Apple icon > System Preferences > Sound > Output Volume (at the bottom). You might want to check ‘Show volume in menu bar’ for easy access later for increasing / decreasing output from Soundflower into Logic.

Also check…

The Audio MIDI Settings program below (found on Mac by going Applications > Utilities >Audio MIDI Settings) does NOT need to be changed – but in case you want to check the settings – it should be as follows;

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How Should I Not Hide my Light When my Daughter is Full of Anger if I Mention Jesus?

This article is about witnessing to family members. As the Bible says, the word will cause division in a family between believers and non-believers. How should I not hide my light when my daughter is full of anger if I mention Jesus. Is it ok to just say God bless you?


The Approach I have taken to family members not believing and being hostile towards God is just to a) not be over bearing with “Thus sayeth this and that” (they will never get it until they are prompted by God (often through seeing our good deeds, actions and faith) seek for themselves God and sometimes does more harm than good) – but don’t be intimidated and speak your mind in love if necessary b) serve and demonstrate Jesus rather than only focus on talking about him – that’s much better and leaves people with no excuse to bully you c) saying “God bless you” over and over can sometimes seem like a smack in the teeth to some people when life isn’t going well, so I would focus on this; The Bible says – we must do good works – not to be saved – but so that others will see the love of God in your good works for others in you and believe! Having said that it’s all easier said than done.

Oh and pray that God does the really impossible work for you – ie that He brings people and things to her attention that will help open her eyes to the reality of His existence and love for all sinners that love and seek after truth and who despite their transgressions thirst after righteousness.

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My Wife and I Have Separated, She is Pregnant and I Met Another Woman. Help!

Question to ChristianAdvice; I Met Another Woman – help!

Dear brother or sister,
I am from India. I am 33 years old man. I am married last year April and my wife is pregnant now.
She is actually due in a few days.

But the problem is that we had a lot of fights which never kind of resolved. We are living separately for the past 6 months.
I have been contemplating divorce.
I don’t know what she wants but I feel I can’t stay with her anymore.

The other issue now is that I started talking to one of uncle’s daughter and came to know that she loves me and wanted to wait for me. She decided that she would not get married if she can’t get married to me. I met her recently and unfortunately we had been intimate physically.

Now I am pretty much in a big mess. And I don’t know what to do.
I am sorry I don’t know if I can ask things like this. 
But please help me if you can. I didn’t tell this to anyone till now.
If you have to publish thus, please change my name and personal information.

Hi there,
I am sorry – it sounds like a very difficult situation you are in. First things first – despite what many modern preachers will tell you I do not believe divorce is an ‘option’ for Christians on a plain reading of the Bible and Jesus’ words when he clearly says; “it was not that way in the beginning” making the unmistakable point that in the beginning things were instituted the correct way.
Having said that, divorce cannot be an unforgivable sin if you already did it, but I would recommend every effort is made to keep to your words for both of yours sakes – and this may mean making changes in YOURSELF first – even if you think all the blame lies at the other persons’ door. God is not apparently interested in who’s right and wrong as divorce is not an option – people are incompatible period so it’s not and never was about finding the right – ‘compatible’ person. It was and always is about becoming the right person.
I don’t know if you are Christian or not. I if you are – I recommend you pray and ask God what He wants before you ask go ahead and try to get what you want. God never intends for people to divorce – one reason is because of children need their mum and father, but I realise sometimes people have to separate and things can become extremely tough.
Regarding the other lady, I would repent of this and then try to make changes in yourself, so that you do not argue with your wife even when she is not rational, and you two may be reconciled. I realise its a two-sided situation and she has to make changes also and meet you half-way. Forgiveness is always the key. Forgive forgive and swallow pride.
Marriage is not about finding the ‘right’ person – there is no right person, and we are all incompatible because we are all inherently selfish. Marriage is about loving someone even when they are not very loveable – and each person becoming the right person for the other person, forgiving, and changing ones own habits and ones own personality to be better. If both people do that then you have hope to stay together and be happy. This would mean stop seeing and talking to the other lady completely. I’m afraid it is not about what she wants – you are a married man and she should know better.
Ask father God what you need. That is the best I can advise as He knows all things and what you both need! God bless you both and I pray you can be reconciled.

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Do We Christians Have Absolute Authority Over The Devil?

Q: Do Christians Have Total Authority and Power over The Devil and Satan?

Absolutely not. If we did, we could simply say a prayer, bind the Devil and he would never come back. Better still we could call on Jesus to do away with the Devil altogether. But we know that won’t happen. What we do have is absolute authority over sin in the sense that we can overcome it and enter heaven. But we cannot do away with sin. We do not have absolute power over anything in fact – only God has that power.

Besides, the Bible makes it absolutely clear that Satan, having decided not to serve God, now has another purpose to serve; to chasten the disobedient, to punish and blind the wicked and to purify the obedient. But He will not do away with the Devil as that is the Devil’s whole complaint in the first place – that God forces His will on others and does not offer us true freedom.

So why pray at all?

Answer: because if all we have to do is speak words to unleash all kinds of blessings on untold numbers of what would otherwise be bad people and situations, and bind up all kinds of evil – then why not? Not to pray would and is a sin in itself!

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