Divorce & Remarriage: Is Marriage after Divorce Adultery?

“Hi, my question is regarding re-marriage – is divorce and remarriage adultery? I am engaged to a man that has been married once before, and now divorced.  During the marriage, both parties did things that could be considered unfaithful to one another.  Although neither person knew what the other had done. The marriage did not necessarily end due to the unfaithful acts. My questions are: 1) since my fiance committed an act of unfaithfulness towards his former wife, is he then always considered an adulterer, even if he has repented of his sin?  2) Is he allowed to be remarried and have it be ok in the eyes of God?  3) IF I marry him, will I then be committing sin and be considered an adulterer?  Thank you so much.”
Hi there,
On the question of is divorce and remarriage adultery? From my reading the Bible / Jesus is quite unambiguous as far as I can see about what is what – but he is also clear that forgiveness knows no bounds if it is sought earnestly.
The problem with this issue and others like it is that people tend to seek council of men who will say what they want to hear / fits with their circumstances/lifestyle – rather than what God says – and we all do it – Ive done it. Jesus didn’t say to the woman at the well – go back and marry all your ex-husbands – he said go and sin no more – ie move forward. We are all adulterers in terms of being unfaithful to God so I would seek God’s/Jesus council on this in the Bible so the sin of adultery within marriage is no better or worse than our sins against God generally. Question is – having done it what are we going to do about it?
Personally I would be cautious to marry a person whom I knew in advance had done this – not from a forgiveness point of view but from a behavioural point of view. Having said that these situations can be far from cut and dry and sometimes people are driven to it and regret it  – others just see it as an option if things aren’t going well. But that’s would be your call .
Apologies – I was rushing didn’t really answer the question directly – as I think you need to really ask God yourself with an open heart – to any answer He may give – not necessarily the one we want to hear – which is not easy.

But I do feel we need to call a spade a spade – just as Jesus did – in other words God doesn’t want anyone to divorce – ever – no matter what the circumstances – that seems crystal clear and Jesus even goes as far as to say Moses giving a divorce certificate was not Gods way but because of hardened hearts it was the only option – and I think nothing has changed today, people have not become more ‘godly’.

But Jesus having spelled out in black and white terms what divorce amounts to in God’s eyes – always goes on to offer a way forward – sin of adultery within marriage is no worse than our sins against God generally. Question is – having done it what are we going to do about it – are we not going to call it out for what it is going to do it again?

So my summary of this issue (my humble opinion – please read the Bible yourself);

If it has happened and there is no going back – and we are to enter into another marriage.. we definitely can’t go into it the same way as we did before – the way the liberal churches teach it (since 70% their tithing congregation are likely divorced and most would leave) that divorce is an option if things don’t turn out the way we want.

It’s not what we can get out of it – it’s what we can give – how we can become the right person – not finding the right person for us. No one is ‘compatible’ – we are all self-serving – it’s about becoming compatible.

So my opinion would be yes – according to Jesus one is an adulterer – but from the Bible it’s clear God is always willing to wipe the slate clean. And never forget as I mentioned before – we are ALL adulterers in God’s eyes.

This is a harsh teaching from Jesus but I think the whole point of marriage is commitment – and there is no real commitment if we feel there is always an option to bail out.

Divorce in The Bible

My Wife and I Have Separated, She is Pregnant and I Met Another Woman. Help!

Question to ChristianAdvice; I Met Another Woman – help!

Dear brother or sister,
I am from India. I am 33 years old man. I am married last year April and my wife is pregnant now.
She is actually due in a few days.

But the problem is that we had a lot of fights which never kind of resolved. We are living separately for the past 6 months.
I have been contemplating divorce.
I don’t know what she wants but I feel I can’t stay with her anymore.

The other issue now is that I started talking to one of uncle’s daughter and came to know that she loves me and wanted to wait for me. She decided that she would not get married if she can’t get married to me. I met her recently and unfortunately we had been intimate physically.

Now I am pretty much in a big mess. And I don’t know what to do.
I am sorry I don’t know if I can ask things like this. 
But please help me if you can. I didn’t tell this to anyone till now.
If you have to publish thus, please change my name and personal information.

Hi there,
I am sorry – it sounds like a very difficult situation you are in. First things first – despite what many modern preachers will tell you I do not believe divorce is an ‘option’ for Christians on a plain reading of the Bible and Jesus’ words when he clearly says; “it was not that way in the beginning” making the unmistakable point that in the beginning things were instituted the correct way.
Having said that, divorce cannot be an unforgivable sin if you already did it, but I would recommend every effort is made to keep to your words for both of yours sakes – and this may mean making changes in YOURSELF first – even if you think all the blame lies at the other persons’ door. God is not apparently interested in who’s right and wrong as divorce is not an option – people are incompatible period so it’s not and never was about finding the right – ‘compatible’ person. It was and always is about becoming the right person.
I don’t know if you are Christian or not. I if you are – I recommend you pray and ask God what He wants before you ask go ahead and try to get what you want. God never intends for people to divorce – one reason is because of children need their mum and father, but I realise sometimes people have to separate and things can become extremely tough.
Regarding the other lady, I would repent of this and then try to make changes in yourself, so that you do not argue with your wife even when she is not rational, and you two may be reconciled. I realise its a two-sided situation and she has to make changes also and meet you half-way. Forgiveness is always the key. Forgive forgive and swallow pride.
Marriage is not about finding the ‘right’ person – there is no right person, and we are all incompatible because we are all inherently selfish. Marriage is about loving someone even when they are not very loveable – and each person becoming the right person for the other person, forgiving, and changing ones own habits and ones own personality to be better. If both people do that then you have hope to stay together and be happy. This would mean stop seeing and talking to the other lady completely. I’m afraid it is not about what she wants – you are a married man and she should know better.
Ask father God what you need. That is the best I can advise as He knows all things and what you both need! God bless you both and I pray you can be reconciled.

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How to Propose To a Woman

Is she the person you would stay with through thick and thin?

Disclaimer; christianadvice.net does not guarantee she will say yes!!:)

OK – over with the funny part and onto serious stuff. Well, we are assuming you have found the person you have decided to spend the rest of your life with and remember, as a Christian – that does mean life (we realise many churches nowadays through fear of losing members and upsetting the apple cart choose to sweep Jesus very clear words on the matter well out of sight). The fact is – as a Christian – despite what people will tell you – you don’t really have an option to divorce – separate under some circumstances if it’s sensible?.. yes – but divorce so that you can be a consecutive polygamist? (marry people one after the other)… sorry – God hates divorce and as Jesus told us; “it was not that way in the beginning” and one must assume that in the beginning God got things right as he wanted them.

They say when you know you know – this is clearly wrong as 50% marriages end in divorce. The Bible says; when you think you know – you probably don’t!

engagement ringMarriage I’m afraid to tell all those that have listened to watered-down sermons on the subject is a decision and a binding one at that, not a feeling, or something you are excused from if one party turns out to be ‘incompatible’! The fact is, we are ALL incompatible to be married – that’s what the power of a marriage is. Loving someone DESPITE their faults as Christ loved the church. Not a Christian?.. oops well you better go off to google and find a secular ’emotionally’ based article on the subject by some agony aunt.

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So, how to propose to a woman…

Notice in the wedding ceremony, the “till death do us part” bit. Are you man enough for that? So now that you have decided you want to marry this person and you have settled in your heart that you will not divorce them under any circumstances (it’s got to be more than looks and the feeling of falling in love since both of these can and certainly the former will fade – and sometimes people are scared, have accidents and may not end up looking like the person you married – but they ARE still that person and just as Christ committed himself to an unfaithful and quite ugly bride – so we must not let looks become an excuse for pulling out the ‘divorce card’) there are several ways you can propose to a woman.

Don’t live with someone beforehand!

Why? Because it’s too easy and there is no real commitment involved. The FACT is people that move in with each other are MORE likely to divorce statistically. Why? Is it anything to do with the moving in part? I doubt it. It’s far more to do with the type of person that thinks ‘try before you buy’ and ‘exit anytime if you want to’ is ok is the kind of person that will likely think divorce is an option. If you think it is, then stop now and read another article. This is not for you.

Spend a lot of time together – not necessarily to see if she’s ‘right’ for you – but to some of see her annoying habits and get used to them and get this fellas; so that she can see your incredibly annoying habits and get used to you! One pastor said he always starts a marriage counselling course with; “you realise you two are in no wise compatible.” Why does he say that? Because humans are inherently selfish and put themselves before others and are not willing to change old habits or meet in the middle as real marriage requires! You know the ‘through thick and thin’ stuff again.

How to ask someone to be your wife – a few do’s and don’ts first

  • you don’t need to try and top the best proposals you see on youtube – marriage is serious.
  • try match your proposal style to your future wife’s personality so she will like it.
  • don’t be slushy or sentimental sweet – but speak from your heart like a man! (I nearly said roaring lion!:)
  • don’t discuss this with too many people or someone will let the cat out – I promise!
  • be confident she will say ye – but be aware – she may and has the right to say no.
  • don’t be an idiot. (do I need to explain this bit?.. if I do perhaps marriage is for later;)
  • if you propose on holiday – don’t do it on he first night unless you are 101% sure she will say yes. A rejection at the start will ruin the holiday!
  • don’t do it somewhere dangerous like a cliff edge – she might use it!

What about asking the parents first?

Well is that what she expects and is that what the parents would expect? In that case yes and if possible I would say yes to this in any case since you will al need to get along. But of course there will be times when it can’t be this way and you may need to just get on and ask her! I think asking her before the parents is not good – despite what other articles say – you want my opinion – you got it. Respect our parents the ten commandments say and what better way than asking them first if it’s possible or appropriate?

Do I need to get a ring?


Do I need to spend lots of money on a ring or the event?

If she loves you for your money or your house or car – perhaps. If she loves you for you – then probably not. But don’t buy her a pice of old rubbish – make sure it’s really nice even if it doesn’t cost the earth and you may want to ask the dealer if it’s possible to swap if there is a problem, especially if you do have a decent income. If you don’t well – see what you can organise and a nice girlfriend would appreciate your efforts. You might need to get a job though!

What kind of ring should I buy as an engagement ring?

Well first you might want to empty your bank account to see what’s in there. No seriously, is your wife to be going to want something that costs the earth? Then do you really want to marry someone like that would be my first question. Second question is the type of ring; well most ladies are quite understandably fussy about what kind of jewellery they will wear so you could buy a cheap one – put it in a cracker and tell her – this is just a temporary one! Then let her choose the real deal. Otherwise – choose a nice ring you think she will like based on what she already wears and what you know about her.

Some engagement ring trivia; A study from Emory University is saying the bigger the engagement ring the more likely the couple will get divorced!
Our comment: this is not meant to make you superstitious, and likely more to do with the type of person that thinks they need an extravagant ring is the kind of person that is more likely to get divorced!!

When do I propose?

You can pick a meaningful date like your first date or some other great time you had together. If you pick a holiday date then remember this will always be shared with your engagement date – something to consider. Do you want your whole family there? This could be arranged or you could do it more privately – either way make sure you have time alone after together as you will likely need and want it. Also – consider when she wants to get married – this might affect when you propose!

Where will you propose?

Wherever you do it – will be cast in stone in your wife to be’s mind so consider this! A hilltop – a beach – a nice restaurant, a hotel but don’t be mean – not a bar or somewhere shoddy. Make sure it’s a nice place! Where wuold she like, a dingy old pub or overlooking the sea at sunset?

Do I need to do something big and extravagant?

I don’t know – do you? Do you feel yo need to? But the bigger it is the more can go wring one would assume. You want it to go right and this is not about making her laugh the most or be wowed by what strings you can pull at the local aerobatics flying club is it? Though these things may come in handy! Big, small, do whatever – but if she loves you she will like whatever you do that is sensible. Here are some suggestions of where you can propose to your lady; a beautiful bridge, a sunset at sea, a restaurant overlooking the city, a mountain top, a cable car, a plane journey (you might need some leg room if she gives you the boot;), a beautiful flower garden, camping or a picnic.

What do I say when I propose to a woman?

“Are you busy for the next 50 years?” often works. Seriously, just say something like; “Girlfriend’s name… you are the most wonderful woman I have ever met and I love you. will you marry me?” What about a few practice runs on a girl friend you know? She will surely tell you if you’re doing a good job or not. But if she says yes… remember next time to remind your tester it’s just a practice run at the outset.

How should I propose to a lady?

The traditional getting down on one knee has to be the best! Perhaps in private and perhaps in public – where would she like you to do it – see if you can work that out without asking her.

  • What about a small orchestra or musician playing quietly in the background? – Spanish guitar perhaps!
  • a banner across the place she walks to work (not on roadways unless your father is transport minister).
  • a banner in the sky pulled by a jumbo jet – I mean a Cessna.
  • A radio DJ announcement
  • a sign in the sand seen from a sky-scrapper or plane. Do you have large fingers?
  • an ad in the paper
  • a crossword that spells; will you marry me?
  • a parachute jump (instructors only!;)
  • diving

Which finger does an engagement ring go on?

473552_1432046824From wikipedia; In Western countries, the engagement ring is normally worn on the left hand ring finger (, though customs vary across the world. Before agreeing to marry, a couple may choose to buy and wear pre-engagement rings, also called promise rings.

imagesWhich is the ring finger?

Come on guys surely you’r not like me and don;t know?! Well from wikipedia again: By wearing the ring on the fourth finger of the left hand, a married couple symbolically declares their eternal love for each other. In Western cultures, a wedding ring is traditionally worn on the ring finger.

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Making a marriage proposal

So – you wanted to learn how to propose to a woman and now you know! Listen – you know this might be emotional – for her I mean – and you perhaps! So stay cool and calm whatever the answer. I mean if you’re the sort of person that starts ranting when she says no then you’re probably not marriage material yet! Hopefully though she will know you’re a great guy and say yes. If she does accept (even if she doesn’t in fact) end with a kiss and a hug and slide the ring onto her finger and praise the Lord!

More articles on how to pop the question to your girlfriend…

www.dailymail.co.uk – Perfect proposal according to WOMEN

www.mensfitness.com – how to propose to your girlfriend



Is There a Biblical Reason We Should Not Wait Till After Marriage to have Sex?

QUESTION: “My boyfriend and I are 20 and 22 respectively and we have both already had sex with other people. We’ve always been Christians through our upbringing, but didn’t take the sex notion seriously. Since our previous relationships (6 months to a year ago) we’ve dedicated our hearts to the Lord! We are wondering if we should wait until marriage to have sex; we just started dating so marriage hasn’t been on the table, but neither of us has had a relationship without sex, and we want to do it right this time. I know premarital sex is a sin in the Bible, but is there a biblical reason we shouldn’t wait if we’ve already committed that sin?”

Our answer: The question you ask is: Is there a Biblical reason we SHOULDN’T wait till after marriage to have sex? The simple answer is: No. Nowhere in the Bible will you find a reason to have full intercourse outside a committed marriage relationship.

But the other question is, do you understand why sex outside marriage is ‘a sin’ according to the Bible? It is because, however enjoyable it might be at the time, in the end it is destructive rather than constructive.

This is because – as the Bible also tells us – full intercourse is special and unites two people in ways nothing else can; involves us sharing the deepest and most precious parts of ourselves; and works best against the background of a reliable long-term relationship. In God’s view, the only person who deserves to ‘know’ us in the way full intercourse allows them to is someone who loves us and is committed to us for life.

Sex before marriage can have these consequences:

  1. If the relationship ends, separation is that much more painful and difficult, with soul ties needing to be broken.
  2. The more different sexual partners we have the more of ourself we give away to people who don’t deserve us. So the more self-respect we give away, and the more people (through our memory) encroach into our ultimate marriage bed.
  3. If you have had full sexual intercourse with people other than your eventual husband or wife, you diminish the extent to which you have something special to give to them.

There are two final practical considerations:

  1. There is always the possibility of a pregnancy, and thus a child that will have to be brought up with a single parent.
  2. Sex with someone other than our long-term partner will always necessitate some cleansing and healing. This can be accomplished by God’s Spirit, but we can never be returned to the same pure and innocent state that we were in before.

It sounds as if you have now gone a long way in this self-healing process. What a shame it would be compound the damage (that is, the part of it that cannot be erased) and to have to start all over again with the process of healing what can be healed.

The longer you abstain from full intercourse the more your self-respect, purity, and wholeness will grow, and the more special this will be in your ultimate marriage, and the less second-hand will be the gift of yourself to your future husband or wife.

The more you abstain, the more also you can concentrate undistracted on the most important part of a relationship – that of becoming friends and discovering whether you are compatible as people. Sexual activity clouds our judgment in other areas of a relationship.

Lastly, the Bible tells us that any sexual contact you have with someone who is not your husband or wife, the more you steal from their ultimate husband or wife. (1 Thess 4:6) A useful guideline is to ask yourself this: if I were now watching my true, ultimate lifetime partner, the one I would someday come to adore, what would I be happy to see them doing, or how far would I be happy to see them going, with someone else before they met me?

Is it OK to Marry Someone You are Not Physically Attracted To?

It depends on what you mean by ‘attracted to’ I guess? But the simple answer is according to The Bible – yes – you are free in Christ to marry someone you are not attracted to physically if you love the person and they love you and you are both Christians and love God with heart mind and soul.

We know from The Bible that outward beauty eventually fades so it is inward beauty that is really important in life and relationships. Does this person love God and desire to keep their commands? That is the most important thing as you are each others helpers and guardians.

But I would advise against it as a general rule as God designed different people to be attracted to people physically for a good reason – to cause them to fall in love initially and longer term when the initial ‘honey-moon’ period is over to keep them together as a ‘glue’, to stop the eyes from wandering and of course to make procreation easier!

But in the end it is character that is infinitely more important over physical attributes that will be left when this life is over and we enter the next.

Should I join a Christian Dating Agency?

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Are dating agencies a good option for single Christians?

I own and run an online Christian dating agency and it would be reasonable for anyone reading this to assume that I am about to say that all Christians should use dating agencies to find a partner, and that there is no conflict between using agencies or friend-finder services and what the Bible says on relationships marriage and finding a Christian partner etc. But I want to be honest, open and constructive about the subject – to discuss the good with the bad and yep, along with the many positives of online singles services, there are one or two negatives.

There are many reasons one might use a traditional or online dating agency. First though, I do not think all Christians (or anyone for that matter) should use dating agencies but having seen the results I do believe that they can be very useful for many people for a number of reasons. But they are by no means ideal – perhaps in an ideal world we wouldn’t consider or need agencies but having heard so many different conflicting views on the subject I wanted to addresss this question of wether we need them seriously, and I thought I’d start by trying to fnd some good arguments or texts on dating in general or using agencies from a Biblical perspective. After all I thought there must be hundreds of essays on this tricky and stigmatised subject that would help me get some honest views for and against using dating agencies.

But to my great surprise after searching Google and all the major search engines designed to find subject specific text matter, all I came up with was a barrage of dating sites offering their services and advice. 100’s of pages – all tuned to be picked up by any search relating to dating (good or bad) in the end designed to sell you a dating service – sometimes at a high price – up to $30 a month!! Some traditional agencies charge £1000 per year where your dates are ‘hand picked’. But I suppose I was niiave to expect to find many such documents (in fact I couldnt find any – but ther emust be some out there and Im going to serach some more) Dating is a highly competive market and I guess few people will write pages against dating. I did however find 2 pages with books that suggested Christian dating was against Christian Biblical principals. I have yet to get copies but I the idea was that it was the element of ‘trust’ or ‘not trusting’ that was a problem – that to use an agency was not allowing God to do his thing – interfering. I actually understand this point of view and believe that it may be right in some circumstances.

Are All ‘Christian’ Dating Sites Christian?

No not at all! Some are and you can find a list of those on this page. But the majority of sites called ‘Christian’ are not Christian companies – not that this is a problem – why should it be? Most ‘Christian’ dating sites are split-offs from larger secular dating sites trying to get in on the Christian market which is pretty large. But checking out these ‘mega sites’ reveales they have a small number of Christians compaired to authentic Christian sites because it is fairly obvious to visitors that the site is secular since by the first or second page they will be asked”are you gay or straight” as part of the questionnaire! They ask is becasuse your details will be put into the same database as 100,000 other people most of who are not Christian and therfore such questions are relevant. The biggest players can afford elaborate enticing sites but to build separate databases for every people group is expensive and so everyone is thrown in together. The site owners would actually be happier if you dont meet a Christian partner for life since your standing order will continue for longer!:-) That said many of these dating sites offer good services. You will find however many 1000’s more Christians on dedicated real Christian owned and run sites. To find them simply add ‘Christian’ and the country you wish to meet people to your search. You should be able to tell with a quick look which ones are genuine Christian sites (tip: check out the questionnare!)

Reasons to use a Christian dating site – why use one at all?

The essence of joining a dating agency is to put yourself in a position where you are more likely to meet new friends. Most of us singles do this every day conciously or subconciously and most will admit if asked frankly if they ever feel incline to better postion hemselves to meet members of the opposite gender. We all want to meet someone – Mr or Miss right – wether it’s the next party is or social event – it’s normall!! It’s all part of having fun, fellowship and interacting and learning about people – our likes and dislikes. That’s why it’s hard to argue against using a dating agency – especially if like me you lived out in the country side with just me and lots of middle aged couples and a few sheep attending the church – not the sheep! I started my own agency because I guessed many people would be in the same boat and not meet many new Christian people outside their social circle. And the feedback is that this is very often true. Read some of our testimonials – I love these!

What does the Bible say about Christian Dating?

Nothing specifically. But the Bible does say, “do not ‘look’ for a wife” – Surely this is the death knell for dating agencies?!! But hey, think about it – It may well be true that the Bible is saying “do not actively go looking or seek a partner” because practically this is fairly unwise for a number of reasons. Take my own experience which although slighlty embarrassing to explain;-) . . ….I will since it’s the truth it may help some people!

Here goes: I spent 10 years actively seeking a partner from 15 – 25 (when I wasnt absorbed in doing things that would actively make me more attractive to a potential partner!! Hee hee – come on we’re all a bit like this – surely it’s not just me:) but never met one or felt particularly attractive. I was fairly good looking so that wasnt a problem but something was. It was only when I became dishollusioned, tired of the whole dating thing and forgot about finding a one, that I gave in and got on with what I call ‘just living’. You know – working hard and generally growing up – being more mature. Then suddenly without trying I find a whole bunch of girls showing an interest!! why? – well it’s no new revelation but basiclly I didn’t appear so needy. All those years I had no idea I was giving off ‘needy’ vibes – and girls are just not attracted to it. Simple. The more I did it the less they liked me and I became more needy – a spiral. Now the problem is if you are needy its nigh on impossiblt to act really confident. You may keep it up for a bit but it will just come out in the end. Best to BE confident and so what better advice than to get on with living to achiev this!!? Fantastic obvious but often missed advice. So I believe the Bible is saying “get on with life since it’s short – improve your skills and concentrate on becoming a real man or woman of God”. That absolutely HAS to be the most attractive thing. Follow the above and you will find when the time is right God will help you meet someone and if you don’t meet many people – then hey why not use a dating agency – just dont fret or rest all your hopes and securities on it – GOD CAN DO MIRACLES. My personal tip is GET secure first (dont wish for things before you’re ready – your heart should tell you this). I dont believe it is saying “do not want or desire a husband or wife – girlfriend” etc. How could it since it is such a great experience!! The Bible never denys us good things unless it wants to prepare us first.

Why and when to use a dating agency

So – you feel relaxed, feel like some fun – want to meet some new Christian people and get a bit of a buzz? Great – then you might try joining an agency. It’s scary yet fun – afterall you dont know what someones really going to be like till you meet them. Take it lightly in terms of expetation but seriously should there be any happy spark because it often happens. But not toooooo seriously if you know what I mean. Here’s some great tips on how to attract a Christian fish!

When NOT to use an agency

Well just make sure you’re not using an agency as a kind of last resort. If you’re despairing cos you havn’t found a partner – try to come to terms with this first – Remember God’s in control and knows when would be best – not always when you feel like it! Persoanlly I found using an agency was great to just build my confidence. I met some nice often successful people who I could interact with and find out what I wanted and what kind of person would be a good match. I does just depend what you expect from it. Have fun. This is far and above the best attitude to take if you really want to attract someone.

Other places and ways to meet new people

Getting practical its a great idea visit some other churches tho there is the obvious danger that you could spend a lot of time doing this and get no where in this quest, whilst also potentially damaging your spiritual well being. This is not to say that you should not consider this idea. Also, be prepared to be humble and examine yourself, considering if there is any character trait or other trait which may put people off you as a partner. Dating agencies can be useful, but they are not ideal, as they may be less likely to provide people who live close to you. It is safest to stick to a rule of focussing on friendship first, and to get to know a person before you start to commit yourself to a relationship. If there is any distance between yourself and a contact, enjoying friendship first is made much more difficult.

Where are All the Men?

Apparently there are three times the number of single women attending church than single men leaving thousands of Christian women struggling to find a decent Christian partner. What should woman do… settle for a nerd, join an agency, date non-Christians or sit back and ‘trust in the Lord’? Welcome to modern day church!

According to recent Christian singles figures available from Research, there are on average 70 women for every 30 men in the church. New Day agency founder says that by the time women reach 40 the ratio has extended four to one and by 50 it’s a staggering six to one. What are women expected to do?!!! The real result of the imbalance is that many women in the church face the real prospect of staying alone and unmarried and this cant be allowed to happen.

What is the biblical view of dating?

The Christian view of dating (tho ‘dating’ is not mentioned of course in the Bible) is based on biblical principles which God designed to protect relationships – marriage and family. There are some basic principles of Christian courting or dating which if followed prevent the kinds of problems and suffering later – especially that of kids.

1) Dating people should be reserved for finding a marrriage partner – not trying people for size. Accordingly dont date until you are ready to take on the responsibilities of marriage. Between times – make a lot of friends – guys and girls and get ready for marriage and commitment.

2.Select dates very carefully – date Christians only. I know of virtually no examples where Christians have married non-Christians and the result is a happy stable marriage.

3.Select your Christian dates carefully. Dating a non-committed Christian or worldly Christian is usually a recipie for disaster if you yourself are trying hard to please God.

4.Abstain from intimate involvement prior to marriage. Kissing and petting may not seem like intimate relations – but it is the lead up to intercourse and lets face it – can anyone draw a line where kissing or petting stops and the other thing starts? It’s not that intimacy is bad – it’s that the further you go – the more bonded you will become – perhaps to the wrong person. Avoid it and you will stay sane and make good judgements.

To conclude – dating, sex and marriage are great giftsfor those who take them seriously.

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