Feeling Despondent About Christian Men in Churches Today

I shared with a guy on a Christian dating site him he needed to be born again. This is the truth but he has no concept of this. I’d have left it there but thought he had contacted me again . It’s so difficult to find a Christian guy .I said to him this was a Christian site for those who love and know the Lord  and I believe it. But some men on here don’t even know what a Christian is and don’t even worship God in church .
I’ve had them tell me they “follow their heart not a religion”, they  don’t need to read the Bible or don’t believe the Bible, they don’t need to go to church  and only believe in the values of Christianity. So many different thoughts but no good for those of us who are passionate and in love with Jesus because we have had a transforming revelation of who Jesus is. It’s not fair not to tell them the truth so I do . When we get to heaven how bad will it be if we haven’t given someone the choice to know Jesus in spirit and in truth.
He has reported me for telling him the truth. I have an evangelical heart as should we all. I’m not judging anyone – just telling them the truth .
I do get frustrated waiting to meet the right man for me and get so upset. It’s so difficult . 
Thank you.

Our Reply
I understand your frustration – I was in several minds a few years back about the Bible / which one / who wrote it etc – having gone to an evangelical church myself and been weaned on the NIV and realised just from my own reading all kinds of subtle issues – and I even stopped church myself for a while as so many people had different ideas I felt a hypocrite for not knowing what was what. 
So I asked God to help me and it all straightened out when I read the KJV – no more contradictions and now I firmly believe the Bible is inspired. But what I’m really saying is – I understand with todays young preachers and 100 different bibles and rock churches why people dilute the bible’s importance – the world and the bible don’t mix very well.
Many folks in churches don’t even know what the 10 commandments like say they would 100 years ago – and so to some degree it’s not their fault – its their teachers who should know better. So I try to be a little easier on people as it clear we all only see in part.
But yes – its true – there is a problem and shortage of the sort of fervent people you are looking for – I guess thats why I started fusion – because really the churches should take care of this issue completely – it would be quite easy to solve but they like to remain compartmentalised.
Oh onwards and upwards!:)
God bless you

If God Exists, Who Created God?

You will often hear the argument; “well if God exists, then who created God?” as if it is a legitimate question to ask. This is a legitimate question until you stop to think for a moment about it, whereupon the question itself is seen to be meaningless and not even a logical question to ask. Why?

Here’s how to answer this question; “well who created God?”

Answer: Fact; God must be infinite – timeless by definition – of He is not a God. If so-called ‘God’ or ‘Gods’ were created, then they are not in fact Gods at all – they are created beings by whatever ‘God’ is.

By definition, you can only have one all-powerful, omniscient God/being – you cannot have two or three or four ‘Gods’ that have a kind of power-sharing agreement – otherwise these ‘Gods’ are not in fact real God’s at all, they are at best, semi powerful and labelled ‘Gods’ purely to describe perhaps awesome power but they are by no means all powerful – i.e God.

So if a real God does exist, then He must have existed forever or not at all – period, so the question; “who created God” self destructs. In other words – if God does exist, He MUST exist in an infinite, timeless realm we cannot comprehend – otherwise he is not God and just like us!

So now, knowing we cannot see or ‘touch’ a God that is really an infinite God, it just remains to be discovered if man can or cannot step outside our finite realm into the infinite to understand God, by I rather think that God would not leave that option open to us – lest armed with the full knowledge of infinity and creation we not only mess up the world and bring it to the brink of destruction, that we totally destroy ourselves.

Worry & Anxiety Help

What The Bible Says about Worry. How a Christian can Overcome Anxiety

open-bibleonwhiteWorry doesn’t accomplish anything. Psalm 37:8, TLB.
“Stop your anger! Turn off your wrath. Don’t fret and worry -it only leads to harm.”

There’s no need to worry, God has everything under control. Matthew 6:31-33, TLB.
“So don’t worry at all about having enough food and clothing. Why be like the heathen? For they take pride in all these things and are deeply concerned about them. But your heavenly Father already knows perfectly well that you need them, and He will give them to you if you give Him first place in your life and live as He wants you to.”

We cannot stop worrying until we replace it with something better – prayer. Philippians 4:6-7, TLB.
“Don’t worry about anything; instead pray about everything; tell God your needs, and don’t forget to thank Him for His answers. If you do this you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus.”

Worrying is a waste of time. Luke 12:25-26, TLB.
“And besides, what’s the use of worrying? What good does it do? Will it add a single day to your life? Of course not! And if worry can’t even do such little things as that, what’s the use of worrying over bigger things?” Give all your worries to the Lord. , I Peter 5:7, TLB. “Let Him have all your worries and cares, for He is always thinking about you and watching everything that concerns you.”

Related Christian topics

Christian depression help | Christian Discernment | help with failure | Guidance by God | singleness

Christian advice help & tips at christianadvice.net 2003

Short Christian Readings & Meditations

Short Christian Writings of Refection

To love
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one. Not even an animal. Wrap it carefully with hobbies and luxuries, avoid all entanglements and keep it safe in the casket of your selfishness. But in the casket – safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable”. C.S Lewis The Four Loves

Heaven & Hell – C.S.Lewis
“The only place outside of Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”

Gods presence – letters of C.S.Lewis
It is when we notice the dirt that God is most present in us: It is the very sign of his presence.

The good host – author unknown
If you are gifted in some way, and the bible says we all have different gifts,

you will find that you can move in spheres where other people can’t. Say you’re a gifted conversationalist – you can talk and entertain like nobody. You’re always the center of attention. You’re so good you can turn the spotlight away from others and onto yourself. Nobody minds you doing this as you’re such great fun. In fact your light is so great that the other people in the room don’t even get noticed. Your choice is to run the whole show and exclude the others from the party, or recognise that some giftings are far more subtle than yours but no less potent. If only they were allowed to come out they would throw a different kind of light on everybody at the table – even you!! But you won’t see their gifts unless you call them out. They’re not going to come out while your ranting and raving. Like a good boss and a bad boss – a good boss knows how to get people working hard by making everyone feel included. Some gifts are only appreciated by having certain gifts. A tone deaf person won’t appreciate the intricacies of beautiful music. They’ll like the overall sound and that’s that. Never assume you can see the whole picture or you may be rudely awakened by the most unlikely person. Gods humour perhaps? The good host is someone who steps back and allows others to take to the floor.

Why Don’t I See You? – by Scott Tousignaut

A friend was in front of me coming out of church one day, and as always the preacher was standing at the door shaking hands as the congregation departed. He grabbed my friend by the hand and pulled him aside. The Pastor said to him, “You need to join the Army of the Lord!” My friend replied, “I’m already in the Army of the Lord, Pastor.” Pastor questioned, “How come I don’t see you except for Christmas and Easter?” He whispered back, “I’m in the secret service.”

The Rock – by Julia Townsend
A man was sleeping at night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light and the Savior appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might.

This the man did, day after day. For many years he toiled from sun up to sun down, his shoulders set squarely against the cold, massive surface of the unmoving rock, pushing with all his might.

Each night the man returned to his cabin sore, and worn out, feeling that his whole day had been spent in vain. Seeing that the man was showing signs of discouragement, the Evil Impulse decided to enter the picture by placing thoughts into the man’s weary mind: “You have been pushing against that rock for a long time, and it hasn’t budged. Why kill yourself over this? You are never going to move it.” Thus giving the man the impression that the task was impossible and that he was a failure, these thoughts discouraged and disheartened the “Why kill myself over this?” he thought. “I’ll just put in my time, giving just the minimum effort and that will be good enough.”

And that he planned to do until one day he decided to make it a matter of prayer and take his troubled thoughts to the Lord. “Lord”, he said, “I have labored long and hard in your service, putting all my strength to do that which you have asked. Yet, after all this time, I have not even budged that rock by half a millimeter. What is wrong? Why am I failing?”

The Lord responded compassionately, “My friend, when I asked you to serve me and you accepted, I told you that your task was to push against the rock with all your strength, which you have done. Never once did I mention to you that I expected you to move it. Your task was to push. And now you come to me, with your strength spent, thinking that you have failed. But, is that really so? “Look at yourself. Your arms are strong and muscled, your back sinewed and brown, your hands are callused from constant pressure, and your legs have become massive and hard. Through opposition you have grown much and your abilities now surpass that which you used to have.

Yet you haven’t moved the rock. But your calling was to be obedient and to push and to exercise your faith and trust in My wisdom. This you have done. “I, my friend, will now move the rock.”

At times when we hear a word from God, we tend to use our own intellect to decipher what He wants, when actually what God wants is just simple obedience and faith in Him……. By all means, exercise the faith that moves mountains, but it is still God who moves them.

The Weight of Prayer – Author unknown

Louise Redden, a poorly dressed lady with a look of defeat on her face, walked into a grocery store. She approached the owner of the store in a most humble manner and asked if he would let her charge a few groceries. She softly explained that her husband was very ill and unable to work, they had seven children and they needed food. John Longhouse, the grocer, scoffed at her and requested that she leave his store. Visualizing the family needs, she said: ‘Please, sir! I will bring you the money just as soon as I can.”

John told her he could not give her credit, as she did not have a charge account at his store. Standing beside the counter was a customer who overheard the conversation between the two. The customer walked forward and told the grocerman that he would stand good for whatever she needed for her family. The grocerman said in a very reluctant voice, “Do you have a grocery list? Louise replied “Yes sir!” “O.K.” he said: “Put your grocery list on the scales and whatever your grocery list weighs, I will give you that amount in groceries.”

Louise, hesitated a moment with a bowed head, then she reached into her purse and took out a piece of paper and scribbled something on it. She then laid the piece of paper on the scale carefully with her head still bowed. The eyes of the grocerman and the customer showed amazement when the scales went down and stayed down.

The grocerman staring at the scales, turned slowly to the customer and said begrudgingly, “I can’t believe it.” The customer smiled and the grocerman started putting the groceries on the other side of the scales. The scale did not balance so he continued to put more and more groceries on them until the scales would hold no more.

The grocerman stood there in utter disgust. Finally, he grabbed the piece of paper from the scales and looked at it with greater amazement. It was not a grocery list, it was a prayer, which said: “Dear Lord, you know my needs and I am leaving this in your hands.” The grocerman gave her the groceries that he had gathered and placed on the scales and stood in stunned silence.

Louise thanked him and left the store. The customer handed a fifty-dollar bill to John as he said, “It was worth every penny of it.” It was sometime later that John Longhouse discovered the scales were broken, therefore only God knows how much a prayer weighs.

Is There a God?

Is there really a God out there?

The Bible says; “A fool says in his heart there is no God.” “Trough seeing from what has been made, man is without excuse.”

The message is, no one can say without question that God doesn’t not exist and The Bible – quite rightly and truly says accordingly that any man who says such is a fool! So watch out if you really harden your heart to the point where you say you don’t believe in a God you cannot disprove!

Feel free to email us if you have any strong beliefs for or against anything on this page – or want to add anything we missed… no body ‘knows’ or can prove that their particular brand of religion is right.. otherwise there’d be no such thing as faith right?.. but has God left any markers, or anything that says ‘here I am’?…

Articles on is There a God www.leaderu.com – is there a God?



www.thekeyboard.org.uk – Evidence for God

Related Christian topics

The Love of God | Guidance by GodAbout Christianity

Is the really a God in the universe? Thoughts at christian advice.net 2004

Gods Guidance and Hearing God

Guidance by God: How Does God Guide Us?

compass-on-whiteDoes God really guide his people?

Firstly, is a God that can’t guide us a real God? We have every reason to believe the Christian God of the Bible is real and that His guidance is a real phenomenon – incredible but true! But how does he guide – can you hear God speak? Is it my coincidence telling me to do something? Is a strong hunch the voice of God? Does God speak aloud as we hear each other?


Amazons Top Books on God’s Guidance >>


How does God speak?

“God whispers in our pleasures, talks in our thoughts and shouts in our pain”  C.S.Lewis

God speaks in an infinite number of ways and will not be confined to one method. The Bible tells us that occasionally, God speaks in an audible voice. He also speaks in our conscience. He speaks in our pain and he speaks in our pleasures. Sometimes softly, yet other times He may have to shout to get your attention. Sometimes the voice of God is so quiet above the hubub of everyday life that he gets missed. Is this why we are told to ‘be still’ when seeking Gods guidance?

Who Actually Guides Us?

The Holy Spirit is the source of all guidance. From the moment of conversion he overshadows the Christian. His responsibility is to nurture spiritual life once begun. He woos us into line with Gods’ will but won’t force us. When the spirit enters a person he removes guilt and restores spiritual life. He is the author of soundness of mind and as the body is a temple of God, we can if we wish have the source of all guidance within us!

Does God speak in our emotions?

Emotions are physical feelings – affected by the the things you say and hear. Words – good or bad – true or false trigger thoughts and in turn hormones that make you feel accordingly – A nice glow or a nasty shock – depending on what’s been said. In other words your emotions are not necessarily guiding you – since it’s possible that the truth of a situation may make you feel bad. And an ‘easy option’ which may not be the best route may feel ok. This is why you should refrain where possible from making decisions when you are emotionally upset!

When we are guided by God?

When guided by God, we work on all cylinders. We are motivated and efficient. It’s also a fact that guidance doesn’t always lead to the outcome we want. It may lead in an unpleasant direction. However, you can be sure that God has your infinite good at heart.

Being guided is exiting

Just knowing the creator of the universe is willing and able to guide us is more than exciting. And what’s ahead is always more exiting than the past. God works behind the scenes. The fantastic thing about guidance is that you can train your heart to hear Gods voice. This means you can start right where you are with little or no understanding of how God speaks to us. I guarantee wherever you’re at, if you open your heart to God his voice will become more easily detectable as your christian life moves on.

God makes blueprints

“Gods plan” sounds rather twee! But there is a plan – there has to be. You wouldn’t design something as intricate as people and planets and forget the purpose! His plan is of the utmost perfection. Can you believe that most of Gods plans are not used because we choose to use our own! But God is always busy rewriting the script bringing us as closely back into line as possible and giving us life in the full. Plans are always made at the outset – and God’s were made at the beginning!

It’s ok to make mistakes!

I believe without failure and it’s consequences, we dont learn much, and our self awareness would amount to little more than a dreamy outlook – Like a bird stood on a railway track unaware of an oncoming train. Unfortunately, life’s knocks are in the end what teach us about ourselves and the nature of good and bad. We are then free to choose life if we so wish.

Should we leave it all to God?

Ii’s often said that God should be in control. This is only true if you are incapable of helping yourself otherwise you would be rightfully expected to make your own choices. In fact it would be bad parenting not to let go of the seat just because the child might fall of his bike. There will come a moment when God appears silent and he has to ride on his own. Short term pain means longterm gain and better decisions.

The consequences of taking a wrong turn

All decisions lead to other decisions. Every decision you make affects your being. But unlike being knowingly rebellious, taking a wrong turn with God is correctable!

But which direction should I take?

If the direction was as important as we think, non of us would move anywhere since non of us knows for sure which decisions are right!. What’s important is that through a series of trials successes and failures, we learn about ourselves, the nature of real life (spiritual) and to detect God’s voice even when the prevailing noise seems deafening.

Don’t stand still!
An analogy often used is the ships rudder. Unexpectedly, the direction we are moving in is not as important as we might think. Especially at the start of the journey as a ship moving in the wrong direction can be re-guided. A ship that’s not moving can’t be guided anywhere! For most of us the start of our christian walk will mean taking many ‘wrong turns’. Moving, with God in mind is the key.

Can you upset gods plan?

People all through the ages have believed they can. But of course the answer is nothing can thwart God’s plans – in fact – if you try to do so he will ironically use your efforts to procure his will! No evil circumstances, nothing can get between God and you except pride. The only thing that can upset gods plan in his most complicated work of Genius -the universe -is you! Very little if anything can be done with a proud, hard heart. But everything can be done with a humble heart. Look at Joseph in the Old Testament. All the plotting against him only served in the end as stepping stones to his ultimate success!