Singleness Guide

Advice & Help for Single Christians

christian-single-men-friendsWhen you feel loved, hardship is easier. And pleasing your partner is to your advantage – because their happiness is your happiness. There is no doubt that if you are not one of the few people designed for a single lifestyle, having a partner can be a great comfort and encouragement – though marriage has its own problems!

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The single person does not have the higher purpose that the married person has in terms of a partner and speaking from personal experience, this can make motivation quite tough. Just saying your motivation is the Lord’s work does not always help!! Working hard and enduring hardships can seem pointless when you’re single – I know all about it:). The most important thing for a single person to remember is the highest purpose of all – God – and to stay focused and work hard where you’re at, so that when opportunity arises, it’s ready to be embraced.

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Many married people never have a chance to properly develop important characteristics as their stability and confidence becomes tied up in their partner early on. Meeting your perfect partner unprepared or too early is not desirable so single is the best time to develop character and confidence. This is the time to improve all areas of your life by effectively communicating with as many different people as possible!

And lastly…

Rarely can someone delight in the Lord when their whole being desires a partner and sometimes it can seem like a slap in the face to suggest they should. But it’s often the gripping desire that actually stops us from receiving what we want in life – not just with relationships. And it’s never because God doesn’t want us to have good things. The old cliche is “you don’t give a Ferrari to a ten year old”. A certain knowledge and stability is required to drive the car and get the most from it. It’s the same with a job, and a more importantly a partner. God doesn’t give his children gifts the’re not ready to handle. Instead he chooses to ride the storm with us, giving us only what we need. Although sometimes very painful, it’s often when we give up the fight and our desires to him, that we begin to relax, start looking outward, and generally without realising it become more trusting, attractive, stable and ultimately ready for bigger things.

You will notice that the rest of the world gets what it wants, when it wants – and God always makes an example of this – a price is always paid. Any kind of riches outside the kindom of God goes bad on us eventually. There is no substitute for receiving things at the right time so we should hand our desires over to Him!

open-bibleonwhiteThe Bible on being single Christians…

use your time and freedom to serve God, I Corinthians 7:29-31, TLB.
“The important thing is that our remaining time is very short and so are our opportunities for doing the Lord’s work. For this reason those who have wives should stay as free as possible for the Lord; happiness, sadness or wealth should not keep anyone from doing God’s work. Those in frequent contact with the exciting things the world offers should make good use of their opportunities without stopping to enjoy them; for the world in its present form will soon be gone.”

both marriage and singleness are gifts from God. I Corinthians 7:6-7, TLB. “I’m not saying you must marry, but you certainly may if you wish. I wish everyone could get along without marrying, just as I do. But we are not all the same. God gives some the gift of a husband or wife, and others He gives the gift of being able to stay happily unmarried.”

The Lord is a never failing friend, Deuteronomy 31:8, NIV.
“The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.

Bereaved or Widowed?

Do not be discouraged. When lonely because someone you love has died, God is with you, Psalm 23:4, TLB. “Even when walking through the dark valley of death I will not be afraid, for You are close beside me, guarding, guiding all the way.”

If parents reject us, God never will, Psalm 27:10, TLB.
“For if my father and mother should abandon me, You would welcome and comfort me.”

God will never leave us orphaned. John 14:18, TLB.
“No, I will not abandon you or leave you as orphans in the storm – I will come to you.”

We are never totally alone, Hebrews 13:5, NIV.
“God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.'”

For those that desire a partner…

God has a mate for you, Genesis 2:18, TLB.
“And the Lord God said, It isn’t good for man to be alone; I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs.”

Ask the Lord for a mate, Proverbs 19:14, TLB.
“A father can give his sons homes and riches, but only the Lord can give them understanding wives.”

God will give you your heart’s desires, Psalm 37:4 and Matthew 6:8, TLB.
“Delight in Lord first Then He will give you all your heart’s desires.” “Remember, God knows exactly what you need before you ask him”


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