Facebook Does Exactly The Opposite of What it Says on the Tin!

Want to get disconnected from the people that really matter in your life? – Join Facebook! Who really matters in life? Our family, our genuine fiends we can tell anything to, the poor man on the street that needs your friendship, the widow round the corner, your grand parents, the person at school, college or work or church that no one wants to befriend because they are not cool enough to be on Facebook. These are the people God thinks are important – not superficial friends on Facebook.

Facebook claims to make us ‘more connected’ and I will add; make us all more happy and content as a result. However – we all know, if we are honest, that Facebook does exactly the opposite. Because people don’t discuss their real issues, struggles and problems in life publicly (and why should they), Facebook gives us a never-ending stream of other people’s ‘perfect’ lives for us to compare ours with and get more and more dissatisfied with our own life than ever before – even though the reality of our lives ad our friends I guarantee is a lot different to the persona created and constructed on Facebook.

And this is borne out by ‘new’ research that affirms that people are more unhappy when they use Facebook. Well did we really need research to figure that out? I guess someone got paid lots of money to do it.

What Facebook – the site that started as a ‘hot or not’ site (where guys would vote on the ugliness or prettiness of girls at university campus) actually does, is to connect us with hundreds and hundreds, and if we are not careful, hundreds of so-called ‘friends’ – in reality people we really have no time to care about and who have no real time to care for us other than to ‘like’ our favourite song of soup! Facebook has taken the meaning a vacuous and sallow relationships to a whole new level.

It’s Time for Serious Christians to Get Off Facebook!

You thin that’s harsh? OK I’ll eat my words if the clever sociologists of tomorrow don’t in years to come blame the slew self-centered and self-obessesed networks and websites of today for the future state of mind and depression of future kids and adults, who will soon have no idea what to respect their parents no matter what – or what love really means. To them to love will be to ‘like’. To help your neighbour will be to ‘like’ their post or page or favorite colour.

Are We Really More ‘Connected’?

The dreadful and disastrous result of facebook is that families that once were connected are now fragmented, with both adults and children alike becoming obsessed with the hand-held screen, abandoning normal and healthy face to face relationships with their parents and close relatives. It has further impressed into the minds of the young that love is to ‘like’ something – when in reality love is sacrificial – to GIVE of yourself – your time, money, skills and in some cases your life – for which there is no greater demonstration of love. Facebook has helped to create a whole generation of selfish droids who cannot ay longer think for themselves, do not know the difference between right and wrong, think that the opposite of love is to hate (it is not – it is to be selfish) all parrot each other in embracing the evils of the day!

The Real Result of Being More ‘Connected’ is Disconection & Isolation

True we are more connected – but with the wrong people. Not family and close friends in the community, mothers, fathers, and the people they should be really and practically caring about. No we are connected to hundreds of people that if push came to shove, neither we nor they would lift a finger to actually help or serve us. These are shallow associations and ‘friendship’ is far too strong a word for the main part. Facebook has done it’s job, and further diconected the youth of today from those people that really matter, and put them in the hands of the media, and all those that wish to manipulate them for their own ends and profit.

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Being Conformed to The Person of Christ

I want to talk about what we call the ‘Christian Walk’. It is interesting to me that when we start out a a new Christian we are elated about our new found faith and discovery that God loves a person that is facing him and loves truth unconditionally. That he loves us more than we will ever know.

Stages of the Christian Walk

  • New Christian – Elation
  • great zeal in telling others about our new discovery
  • learning God’s word going to church
  • if the church is good, we realize that the word doesn’t fit with our lifestyle and earthly desires
  • church is bad all is good – nothing needs to change in our lifestyle – that would be ‘works’
  • denial that we must change everything, we give up a few things
  • mainly ‘shoe-horning’ (altering) our Biblical beliefs and understanding to fit our lifestyle
  • realizing this will not work forever and that at some point we have to actually be Christ-like
  • our faith and lifestyle come into full conflict. A difficult decision lies ahead
  • we refuse to conform to Christ’s image fully
  • having refused to conform for our own good we are broken down by God so we can be re-made in his image
  • Now having nothing to lose we finally become pliable in Gods hands
  • Willing to have finally our lifestyles ‘shoe-horned’ into the biblical commandments
  • we finally begin to resemble Christ

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By Carlos Aranda

In most cases, when you break things beyond repair, that thing or item now has lost its value. You and I may have felt this way at one point in our lives. You might have felt as if you had no value in this life. One thing we can be sure of is to God, we are priceless even when we don’t see ourselves as having value. First of all, why would we feel as if we have no value? Is it because a harsh word has been spoken to us? Or was it an action or lack of an action? A gun by itself is harmless. Even with ammunition, it’s not lethal until it’s pointed at what you intend to shot. Stupid is just a word until it’s pointed at someone to harm them.

As hard as it may seem, we need to stop putting value on the words that devalue us. The only true opinion we should real y care about is that of Christ. Do not let others dictate who you are or your value. Remember we were created in God’s image. So because God is not a loser, not stupid, not ugly, and not unloved or even unwanted, we cannot be those things God is not. So the next time someone tries to devalue you, just say, “I know my value, for I am a child of the most high God!”

You can read more at my blog  http://carlosaranda.tateauthor.com

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How To Know Your Calling

What’s God’s Calling on Your Life?

So What have I Been Called To Do – How Do I Hear God’s Calling Voice?

The thing to realise is that we’ve all been called to live godly lives and that can be tough – a lifetimes work in itself. You could say that’s all we need to know, but this ignors the desires that push and pull us in every direction imaginable. Not surprisingly many people want to do the glamorous things in life -it’s natural. But don’t be seduced by media glamour – God probably has more useful plans. Push doors but take each day at a time. God will give you things as you can handle them. Remember – small steps done well achieve better results. There are no short cuts to the top (despite current wisdom) and what appears a shortcut may actually be a side or even a backwards step.

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How do I know if I’m in line with God’s calling?

For certain you will have a nagging disquiet if you’re not in line with God. It happens to everybody so don’t worry if you’re having trouble with it. You don’t have to be perfect to be used by God. Just stay open. Another thing to remember is God says his yolk is light – in other words if you’re excessively stressed -you may be off course. Search your heart, check your motives and chose a path that suits your character and gifting for the right reasons. Whatever you do, do it the best you can.

What’s gifting then?

We all like to label ourselves with some romantic titles – painter, musician or businessman! But what would you call youself if there were no paintbrushes instruments or businesses? It’s not what you do that defines who you are – you’re not actually a painter or business man, you’re you. The gift is the particular way your brain’s wired not what you do with it – and we’re all wired differently and capable of different things sometimes overlapping in abilities. Michelangelo said “you paint with your brains not your hands”. But then what did he know!

Unfolding the rosebud – a poem

A young, new preacher was walking with an older, more seasoned preacher in the garden one day and feeling a bit insecure about what God wanted him to do, he was inquiring of the older preacher. The older preacher walked up to a rosebush and handed the young preacher a rosebud and told him to open it without tearing off any petals. The young preacher looked in disbelief at the older preacher and was trying to figure out what a rosebud had to do with his wanting to know the WILL OF GOD for his life and ministry. But, because of his high respect for the older preacher, he proceeded to TRY to unfold the rose, while keeping every petal intact. It wasn’t long before he realized it was impossible to do so. Noticing the younger preacher’s inability to unfold the rosebud while keeping it intact, the older preacher began to recite the a poem.

“It is only a tiny rosebud, A flower of God’s design; But I cannot unfold the petals With these clumsy hands of mine. The secret of unfolding flowers Is not known to such as I. GOD opens this flower so sweetly, When in my hands they fade and die. If I cannot unfold a rosebud, This flower of God’s design, Then how can I think I have wisdom To unfold this life of mine? So I’ll trust in Him for His leading Each moment of every day. I will look to him for His guidance Each step of the pilgrim way. The pathway that lies before me, Only my Heavenly Father knows. I’ll trust Him to unfold the moments, Just as He unfolds the rose.

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What Does The Bible Say About Ageing

Ageing Help & The Christian

“Worry doesn’t accomplish anything.” Psalm 37:8, TLB

Gray hair as a “crown of glory,” a sign of “experience?” The Almighty’s values are a far cry from our own.

God’s Word has a lot to say about heaven and also about aging. We can be thankful that God has a more gracious attitude toward aging than our youth-obsessed society does.

Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained by living a godly life. Proverbs 16:31

The glory of the young is their strength; the grey hair of experience is the splendour of the old. Proverbs 20:29

open-bibleonwhiteWhat The Bible Says on Aging

What an unfashionable idea! Grey hair as a “crown of glory,” a sign of “experience.” The Almighty’s values are a far cry from our own. Instead of being “disposable seniors,” the elderly are promised God’s continuing concern.

I will be your God throughout your lifetime – until your hair is white with age. I made you, and I will care for you. I will carry you along and save you. Isaiah 46:4

Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged. Proverbs 17:6

Advice for Christians Worried About Getting Older

Show your fear of God by standing up in the presence of elderly people and showing respect for the aged. I am the LORD . Leviticus 19:32

The godly will flourish like palm trees and grow strong like the cedars of Lebanon. For they are transplanted into the LORD ‘s own house. They flourish in the courts of our God. Even in old age they will still produce fruit; they will remain vital and green.Psalm 92:12-14

Retirement In The Bible

All of us spend all our working lives trying to save up a nest-egg for retirement but in The Bible there is no mention of retirement. We are meant to go on doing God’s work – whatever that is – until we can no longer do it!

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What Is A True Christian?

What Makes a Real Christian According to The Bible?

Answering the question – what is a true Christian is a very difficult subject, but like most things – is also a simple one depending on how look at it! OK – on eading the Bible you would have to draw the conclusion that anyone that doesn’t accept the Lord Jesus as their saviour will not be saved and therfore isn’t a True Christian.

Now – I havn’t answered the question yet so read on. Let us consider, what happens to all those people who never heard about the good news of Jesus, and what about those people who never will. Here Im talking about people in remote tribes, children that die too young to know the love of God – let alone Jesus. Now these are not facetious questions – these are real questions to think about before we (Christians) brashly jump to any conclusions about what a ‘real’ Christian is.

www.neverthirsty.org – marks of a true christian

Also keep firmly in mind the fact that man lived for many 1000’s years without Christianity – it hadn’t happened! This too must be remembered when we say ‘people obviously arn’t Christians’. It’s simple – yet tricky. God obviously knows what he’s doing since Jesus was foretold way before his time. But there is no doubt – we ‘Christians’ do live in our security bubble and we need to open our eyes and ears to the ‘real’ world – or rather the world around us. Many people will NEVER hear the Gospel – this is a fact – make sure you decide who is and isn’t with this in mind.

So you see I’ve been a coward and not dared to answer the question directly.. since God knows non of us are perfect – and I belive that saying you are a true Christian is – well – perhaps something we should leave to God to decide. We should concentrate on serving as Jesus did, not on which doctrine is perfect – which action is THE action – just get on with helping others and forgiving as Christ did. Whilst you are pondering wether or not you are ‘IN’ or ‘OUT’, your soul may be required! Now you don’t need to worry about this – since God IS just and fair. He knows who knows what – he knows your secrets – and he knows who will an won’t get a chance to hear the good news. This SHOULDN’T stop us from ‘preaching to all the earth’ – since that is a command – but lets not be silly and think that everyone will get to hear the truth – they won’t! Thankfully the Bible tells us that God will jusde a man according to his heart and what he knows – phew!

Here’s a Great bit of writing I found on the web on ‘being a true Christian’ – take a look:

“Most don’t even know a True Christian actually means. In fact most people have never heard the Gospel that Jesus brought to us during his ministry. Have you – or have you simply accepted without question the doctrine of the church you were born into as it was the religion of your parents and their parents?

If yes – you should examine the beliefs of that organization for yourself, to see if in fact they practice sound foundation in Biblical teaching.
I found myself in this exact quandary not that long ago, when upon my own unbiased study of God’s word, I was astonished at how spiritually misguided I had been by the teachings I had been brought up with.

I’ll explain – after the death of Christ the early apostolic church became greatly persecuted in Judea. Decreed heretics by the council of high priests in Jerusalem, and as such subject to death under occupying Roman rule, these severely oppressed first followers of Christ were forced to practice their religion in constant fear and secrecy.

The Church of God in it’s infancy was on the verge of extinction.
Then God raised up the apostle Paul who spread this same Gospel of Jesus to the Gentiles throughout all of Asia Minor – then even to Rome, thus revitalizing the near vanquished congregation in Judea.
However, by 53 A.D. (just a little over twenty years after Christ’s death), Paul cautioned his followers that this Gospel had begun to be changed – corrupted by the traditions and pagan religious practices of these very same nations he had preached the truth to.

“I marvel that ye are so soon removed from him that called you into the grace of Christ unto another gospel: Which is not another; but there be some that trouble you, and would pervert the gospel of Christ.” (Gal 1:6-7)
By 325 A.D., Pagan Rome, conqueror of the known world of it’s time, became by a decree of the Emperor Constantine a “Christian Empire”. Unfortunately, the brand of Christianity being practiced in Rome at that time was, as Paul had warned, not the same religion that he and the Apostles had been taught by Christ himself.
How can that be you ask?

Remember, Rome was a world conquering Empire that instituted with might it’s government, it’s laws, it’s culture, and it’s traditions upon the territories it devoured – traditions that were in fact the same Paganistic religious practices of the Greek, Persian, and Babylonian Civilizations that had in like manner conquered the world centuries before.
Though their gods and festivals of worship might have been called by different names, each of these ancient cultures in essence, worshiped the same deities and practiced the same religious observances – which were then infused from one conquering empire into the next – weaving like thread this apostate theology into what has become the common fabric of religious belief that has persisted all through history.

Today – it is known by is Christianity! Yes, the Gospel that is preached by the accepted traditional churches of today is not the one that Christ brought, but rather a counterfeit, now merely appropriating His name.
“For in vain do they worship [Him] teaching not the commandments of God but the doctrines of men … making the word of God of no effect through your tradition.” (Mark 7:7-13)”

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