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what the Bible says about Christian Divorce

Here's a few stats I pulled from a book - that's probably now out of date but well illustrates the reality of relationships today. To get started. 50% of married couples stay together. Of those 50% have unfulfilled relationships and stay together out of loyal obligation.
In Britain alone, 2/3rds of marriages end in divorce - that's interesting!

If you're feeling terrible about divorce or a situation you're in - take heart. God's not in the business of chastising people who have problems - even in this area - despite the Bible's tough stance on the issue.

Are there any situations when it might be ok to divorce? My good Christian friend may be about to divorce. Totally unexpectedly his wife had an affair and has since refused to communicate on any reasonable level. As for The Bible, it's clear but never dogmatic. It recognises that people fail and though not the will of God, - divorce does happen.

divorce advice - what the bible says on divorcing

how long is marriage supposed to last? Romans 7:2, NIV. "By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage." Christ recognizes only one valid ground for divorce. Matthew 5:32, NIV. "But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery."

God is displeased with people who divorce faithful spouses.Malachi 2:14-16, TLB.
"Why has God abandoned us?" you cry. I'll tell you why; it is because the Lord has seen your treachery in divorcing your wives who have been faithful to you through the years, the companions you promised to care for and keep. You were united to your wife by the Lord. In God's wise plan, when you married, the two of you became one person in His sight. And what does He want? Godly children from your union. Therefore guard your passions! Keep faith with the wife of your youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel, says He hates divorce and cruel men. let there be no divorcing of your wives."

Being married to an unbelieving mate is not an acceptable reason for divorce.I Corinthians 7:12-14, TLB.
"If a Christian has a wife who is not a Christian, but she wants to stay with him anyway, he must not leave her or divorce her. And if a Christian woman has a husband who isn't a Christian, and he wants her to stay with him, she must not leave him. For perhaps the husband who isn't a Christian may become a Christian with the help of his Christian wife. And the wife who isn't a Christian may become a Christian with the help of her Christian husband. Otherwise, if the family separates, the children might never come to know the Lord; whereas a united family may, in God's plan, result in the children's salvation."

If a spouse leaves a marriage for a reason other than adultery they must remain single. I Corinthians 7:10-11, TLB.
"Now, for those who are married I have a command, not just a suggestion. And it is not a command from me, for this is what the Lord Himself has said: A wife must not leave her husband. But if she is separated from him, let her remain single or else go back to him. And the husband must not divorce his wife."

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