My Wife and I Have Separated , She is Pregnant and I Met Another Woman. Help!

Question to ChristianAdvice;

Dear brother or sister,
I am from India. I am 33 years old man. I am married last year April and my wife is pregnant now.
She is actually due in a few days.

But the problem is that we had a lot of fights which never kind of resolved. We are living separately for the past 6 months.
I have been contemplating divorce.
I don’t know what she wants but I feel I can’t stay with her anymore.

The other issue now is that I started talking to one of uncle’s daughter and came to know that she loves me and wanted to wait for me. She decided that she would not get married if she can’t get married to me. I met her recently and unfortunately we had been intimate physically.

Now I am pretty much in a big mess. And I don’t know what to do.
I am sorry I don’t know if I can ask things like this. 
But please help me if you can. I didn’t tell this to anyone till now.
If you have to publish thus, please change my name and personal information.


Hi there,
I am sorry – it sounds like a very difficult situation you are in. First things first – despite what many modern preachers will tell you I do not believe divorce is an ‘option’ for Christians on a plain reading of the Bible and Jesus’ words when he clearly says; “it was not that way in the beginning” making the unmistakable point that in the beginning things were instituted the correct way.
Having said that, divorce cannot be an unforgivable sin if you already did it, but I would recommend every effort is made to keep to your words for both of yours sakes – and this may mean making changes in YOURSELF first – even if you think all the blame lies at the other persons’ door. God is not apparently interested in who’s right and wrong as divorce is not an option – people are incompatible period so it’s not and never was about finding the right – ‘compatible’ person. It was and always is about becoming the right person.
I don’t know if you are Christian or not. I if you are – I recommend you pray and ask God what He wants before you ask go ahead and try to get what you want. God never intends for people to divorce – one reason is because of children need their mum and father, but I realise sometimes people have to separate and things can become extremely tough.
Regarding the other lady, I would repent of this and then try to make changes in yourself, so that you do not argue with your wife even when she is not rational, and you two may be reconciled. I realise its a two-sided situation and she has to make changes also and meet you half-way. Forgiveness is always the key. Forgive forgive and swallow pride.
Marriage is not about finding the ‘right’ person – there is no right person, and we are all incompatible because we are all inherently selfish. Marriage is about loving someone even when they are not very loveable – and each person becoming the right person for the other person, forgiving, and changing ones own habits and ones own personality to be better. If both people do that then you have hope to stay together and be happy. This would mean stop seeing and talking to the other lady completely. I’m afraid it is not about what she wants – you are a married man and she should know better.
Ask father God what you need. That is the best I can advise as He knows all things and what you both need!
God bless you both and I pray you can be reconciled.

Do We Christians Have Absolute Authority Over The Devil?

Absolutely not. If we did, we could simply say a prayer, bind the Devil and he would never come back. Better still we could call on Jesus to do away with the Devil altogether. But we know that won’t happen. What we do have is absolute authority over sin in the sense that we can overcome it and enter heaven. But we cannot do away with sin. We do not have absolute power over anything in fact – only God has that power. Besides, the Bible makes it absolutely clear that Satan, having decided not to serve God, now has another purpose to serve; to chasten the disobedient, to punish and blind the wicked and to purify the obedient. But He will not do away with the Devil as that is the Devil’s whole complaint in the first place – that God forces His will on others and does not offer us true freedom.

So why pray? Answer: because if all we have to do is speak words to unleash all kinds of blessings on untold numbers of what would otherwise be bad people and situations, and bind up all kinds of evil – then why not? Not to pray would and is a sin in itself!

How Can A Christian Cope With Having Cancer?

It’s a scary disease – and something that I have not yet had to face or cope with (yet I am told we all actually have cancer cells in us – it’s just a case of wether the body is removing these damaged cells effectively or not) but we know the world, and all creation including our genes and bodies are fallen, and accordingly, bad things come upon those that love god and those that don’t – and we we read this in the Bible.

However – God also many times intervenes at various times of His choosing to heal and display His power and glory – and not only that – Jesus ALWAYS healed that came to him when he walked the earth.

But how can I cope as a Christian with this terrible prognosis? I myself am not sure but I know a man and woman that may be able to help you get through cancer. I hope these two videos give you inspiration to put your trust totally in God your creator who knows suffering Himself whilst on earth.


This article attempts to help, advise and inspire Christians and others on how they can deal with the diagnosis of having stage 4 or what may turn out to be terminal cancer through belief and trust in God. 

Does ‘Mammon’ mean Money in The Bible?

What is Mammon?

Mammon is not, as some translations say ‘money’ itself. It’s meaning is actually something a bit deeper. Mammon is more that money – the Bible is referring to the evil spiritual power that grips and enslaves men through money. It is out attitude to money that God is interested in, and Jesus rightly says; “you cannot serve God and Mammon” – not God or money but God or Mammon! Money is mentioned all throughout the Bible and a HUGE part of the commands are related to the handling of money. Money is not evil, in fact is is neither good nor bad – it’s merely a method of paying for goods and services, but serving money is what mammon is, and serving money is what is wrong here.

Mammon
ˈmamən/
noun
noun: Mammon
  1. wealth regarded as an evil influence or false object of worship and devotion.
    “others have forsaken Mammon in search of something on a more spiritual plane”
Origin
late Middle English: via late Latin from New Testament Greek mamōnas (see Matt. 6:24, Luke 16:9–13), from Aramaic māmōn ‘riches’. The word was taken by medieval writers as the name of the devil of covetousness, and revived in this sense by Milton.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mammon

How Should I Tithe, Manage & Give my Money?

Derek Prince gives the best and most through walk-through on this subject in my opinion – at least that I have heard. I will also hold up my hands and say that I have and still hold back money that is owed to god and I am working on this continually – to be more generous and trusting of my finances – not in order to receive, but to simply do what God is asking of us!

The result will be blessing and not curse financially – but if you are thinking that by giving this is a prescription to get rich – forget it. That will only happen if you gain the favour of God which means giving for the RIGHT reasons – not selfish reasons. The reason being for the good of OTHERS! So please check out both of these videos and teachings on money, the Bible and tithing! God bless you all.

Should I Judge Another Person?

Well – we are constantly told the answer is no by non-Christians and Christians alike… but what does the Bible say? It’s clear. We are to judge but to judge righteously and JUSTLY! The word ‘justly’ being all important, and of course to get this right is far more difficult than it sounds relying on our own understanding and clouded by our own sin.

We should never judge a book by it’s cover, but what if we need to make an educated judgement about what kind of person someone is by assessing their deeds, actions and the words they speak (for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh) for ours and others protection, it must be done in complete humility, submission and by calling upon God’s Holy Spirit for guidance.

However if we are asking the question; “should Christians judge a person’s eternal salvation?” – common sense says the answer has to be no way! That and that alone is up to God. So this kind of judgement I believe, is what The Bible is talking about when it says; “judge not, lest you be judged.” There is no contradiction, as always it’s about context. And if in one place the Bible tells us to judge righteously – and in another it says judge not – we must find the context and read all around these two statements since both are the inspired word of God and both must be correct in their proper context.

In The Bible it appears that it’s OK to make judgements on a person’s actions righteously – but NOT their heart or eternal salvation

As always – I could be wrong but this is certainly my understanding of the ‘to judge or not to judge’ issue. The fact is – we all make small judgments all day long about people’s behaviour according to what we hear and see them doing – in fact it’s unavoidable and part of life. So when The Bible says ‘judge not’ I surely it has to be talking about not judging someone’s heart, motives or place in heaven. In any case – there by the grace of God go I.